tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2335519961763246760.post6291808240897868757..comments2018-07-15T23:23:02.752-07:00Comments on Order of Protection Survivor: Letting the Venom Fly: The Marking of a Crazy AnniversaryKristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00979431406238988214noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2335519961763246760.post-9866053761571835082011-04-25T22:21:56.058-07:002011-04-25T22:21:56.058-07:00Hello again Kristin,
I just "stopped by"...Hello again Kristin,<br /><br />I just "stopped by" again, and am touched by your response to my latest comment- You are such an inspiration to me!<br /><br />I understand your thoughts about not posting as often in order to "move on." But I will look forward to the times when you do post, as all your readers will be interested in your progress and recovery.<br /><br />I haven't been posting as often on my blog about combat-related PTSD. I had to take a mini-break too. -But I'm always compelled to come back to it, as I know the need for my experience and knowledge is out there.<br /><br />I commend you for helping that woman overseas. Awesome!! You shine a bright light of hope for all of us who have "been there." I wish you peace, joy and love. Words cannot really express how much I admire you, as a woman, and as a courageous, compassionate human being.Charlene Rubushhttp://www.winoverptsd.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2335519961763246760.post-45601603782106501112011-03-22T22:16:04.370-07:002011-03-22T22:16:04.370-07:00Hi, Charlene,
You are so nice to stop by.
I rea...Hi, Charlene,<br /><br />You are so nice to stop by. <br /><br />I really can't imagine what you went through - your story about the slum hotel experience is shocking. I know how fortunate my kids and I are that we had such amazing resources through our local police department. And even then, there were plenty of times when I felt completely alone and terrified. It's especially hard when you personally don't know anyone who's been through a domestic violence experience. It's so unbelievably isolating. <br /><br />I've been helping a young woman overseas, who has a very young child, get the help and resources she needs to be safe and recover. This particular country where she lives lacks sufficient women's shelters, (probably very similar to your situation back in the 80's), so it has been a real challenge for her. But she has persevered and remains strong. Somehow we get through this, even when things seem hopeless.<br /><br />I'm at a point where I won't be as active with this blog simply because I need to move on from this piece for my own well-being. For me, it has served its purpose. I started this as a place for me to "vomit" Neil and what he did to me out of my system. I was glad when it evolved into an advocacy piece. <br /><br />And I feel good about the fact that women have found, and continue to find the content and links on this blog helpful. It's important that others benefit from my story. I imagine you feel the same way about your experience.<br /><br />I wish you much peace, too, Charlene!! Thank you again for stopping by, and most importantly, for sharing your powerful story.<br /><br />Warmest regards,<br />KristinKristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00979431406238988214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2335519961763246760.post-29304494562968992002011-03-22T21:03:59.867-07:002011-03-22T21:03:59.867-07:00Hi Kristin,
I'm just stopping by your blog to...Hi Kristin,<br /><br />I'm just stopping by your blog to see how you are doing. Your work here is so important.- As I look back on my own experience, (became most extreme back in the 80's) remember how terribly alone I felt in my desperation and despair.<br /><br />It was before we all had computers, and shelters for women were rare.-- One night I was so desperate, I left my home (with my young child in tow)went to a pay phone and called a women's shelter. A woman answered and I explained my situation, that I was afraid to stay at home due to my then husband's increasingly aggressive, drunken behavior. She told me there was no counselor available. She was just another desperate woman staying there, and couldn't help me. <br /><br />To this day,I remember the hopelessness I felt. I ended up at a $25 per night slum hotel, where my child and I didn't sleep a wink and listened to drunken fighting going on all night, right outside our room. <br /><br />Of course, after that night, my options seemed more limited than ever.--I'm proud to say I survived that horrible time in my life, but the memories linger. So keep on speaking the truth on domestic violence. There is so much comfort in knowing there is support here! <br /><br />I wish you and all women, peace, safety and happiness.Charlene Rubushhttp://www.winoverptsd.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2335519961763246760.post-75800675779902533982011-02-06T09:32:37.251-08:002011-02-06T09:32:37.251-08:00Anonymous, thank you so much for your comment!
I...Anonymous, thank you so much for your comment! <br /><br />It's really amazing to hear from other women who have unfortunately had Neil in their lives - believe me, there are several others who have contacted me, you're not the only one - and I'm so glad for your sake that you got out of your relationship with him. <br /><br />I really appreciate your thoughts and prayers for me and my children - that truly means a lot. It's been one hell of a year for us, but we've put it behind us as a challenging learning experience and are very grateful to be in a very happy and healthy place now. Thank you again for sharing part of your story with me. <br /><br />Warmest regards,<br />KristinKristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00979431406238988214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2335519961763246760.post-12694085237858146982011-02-06T09:29:19.371-08:002011-02-06T09:29:19.371-08:00I am so sorry to hear your story! I also dated Nei...I am so sorry to hear your story! I also dated Neil when I was young in San Diego. I won't go into details. But thank god I listened to the little voice in my head and broke up with him. When I started dating my current husband he used to sit outside my apartment and this really scared me because he was a US Marshall and I was in the military. I was very embarrassed yet had very little control. You and your children our in my thoughts and prayers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com